The power of self-love enables the right way of life

How to build the right path toward self-love

Hello, everybody! I hope you are enjoying a fabulous week. How did you like the Rainbow Aura article? Thanks for your messages, I appreciate them! So, today we are talking again about more down-to-earth but very necessary topics. Especially, one in particular needs to be taught more often, which is the subject of self-love. How much do you love yourself and honor your needs? Do you even know your needs? Do you know yourself? Please, read on!

I am starting with a small anecdote: Feeling disconnected despite being busy. I am sure you can relate to this, and if you are, you certainly need to work more on yourself. We live in a society driven by the ego, rushing here and there, and more and more acting like robots. Perhaps this is the life that every single human has been building for decades, but certainly, we are worsening in this aspect. If you find yourself disconnected besides being busy, it is time to start re-aligning with your wants and wishes, and of course, this takes an effort.

There are very few teachings out there regarding the importance of loving yourself and your self-connection. Probably you have heard a lot about being a team-oriented individual, thinking about the bigger picture, and sacrificing yourself for success. While these statements are true, you are forgetting the most essential one, which is self-love and taking into account what you truly need. Otherwise, you will push yourself to the point of exhaustion and beyond. I am sure you have already been there a few times.

What Does It Mean to Be Self-Connected?

Perhaps, the first step is for you to know what it means to be self-connected. The meaning here is to have a greater alignment in your life. It is not difficult, it is quite easy, but you need to put some proper effort into self-love, and wanting to have a greater relationship with yourself. One easy step here is to give yourself (for starters), about ten to fifteen minutes of introspection time at the end of the day when no one will disrupt you. Ultimately, you want to do this throughout the day, but starting at night is easy.

You are used to rushing and multi-tasking, but this doesn’t promote wellness. You must understand your limitations, and when you need to give yourself a break. You need to be more observant of your own needs and energy. It is not about pushing it until you are completely depleted, but organizing yourself so that you can properly administer your time and energy. It would help if you had a good idea of what is going on in your life, and how you are handling it.

If you find proper self-love, you will find the time to invest in proper planning taking into account yourself.

From here, you will spot the changes you need to make, and then there is only one thing left, ¡take action! Your efforts will pay off because now you are making changes based on what you need with a better energetic administration.

Making conscious choices and being intentional

Here we have a no-brainer so, I will get to the point. You cannot just go through life without deciding, keep into account the analogy from “The Fool” Tarot card. If you go making reckless decisions, you can have an unexpected outcome that perhaps you didn’t want. Here, you have an example while being present in the now is important. If you yield undivided attention to your situation and actions, you will be ready for any sudden change or challenge. You will be ready for anything, adding a lot of self-confidence.

When you become aware of this, you will start thinking things twice before making a decision. You need to have an appropriate self-love because you need to be considered to yourself. This doesn’t mean that you must step on others, but you need to keep a proper balance. If you want to perform at your best and be at your best for others, then you need to be at your best with yourself first. By knowing yourself, you will be able to understand this a lot better.

What happens when you are disconnected from yourself

Do you like monotony? I am sure you don’t, or at least, not for everything in your life. However, sometimes you can add a lot of monotony to your life unnecessarily. If you are connected to yourself, you will be more in control, more authentic, and more aware of how things are flowing. Just from this alone, is worth making a change and improving your self-love. However, check out more reasons:

• Emotional Suppression: Life will feel more dull, and you will develop an inability to feel and accept emotions. On top of this, you will tend to fall into negative coping mechanisms, greatly limiting your ability to experience joy and happiness.
• Lack of Self-Understanding: You will just go through life in automatic mode because you have to, reducing the importance you project towards authenticity for happiness. You will have a harder time discovering and honoring personal desires and visions. You will decrease your ability to tap into intuition, decreasing further your self-love.
• Externalized Happiness: You will find your drive only by receiving approval from third parties. You should interiorize this approval first, or make the required changes. Others, you will always find yourself seeking fulfillment outside yourself.  You need to realize that happiness lies within.

Interiorize your emotions by finding happiness starting with self-love.

• Uncontrolled Thoughts: Are you that person who always makes self-destructive comments? For example, making jokes about “insert a self-deprecation statement here.” You are being unaware of self-sabotaging thoughts, or you just ignore the harm they do to you. You need to open more your Heart Chakra and understand the importance of awareness and mindfulness.
• Social discomfort: You probably are struggling to connect authentically with others at a personal or professional level because you don’t know (or want to) how to be yourself. You need to honor yourself before others can value you. A lot of times, especially those around you, value you more than you think. So, stop valuing so much the societal expectations and embrace your flaws with love. I encourage you to open up more once you know how. The show comes from self-love and being connected with yourself.

As you can see, these are very strong situations that you need to keep into account. You don’t need to shift 180 degrees as soon as you finish reading this. However, you can start by finding some time to sit in silence and connect with yourself a little.

How about the benefits?

You can guess! Lots of them, and to go to the point, to make your life more awesome, a richer life. You will have the ability to navigate life’s challenges with confidence. On top of this, you will feel capable and empowered to overcome anything that comes at you. You will have great mental strength and more resilience, with a great ability to practice mindfulness and presence.

You will allow yourself to have, where you bring positivism to your life, such as pursuing activities that bring happiness. From here, you will get used to exploring your needs more deeply, and invest time listening to your needs. From here, your self-love will grow.

How to build a stronger connection with yourself

The first step is simple: when there is a will, there is a result. Only the fact that you are reading this, you are already doing a favor to yourself since you are seeking to improve your self-love. So, be happy for what you are doing to yourself now, and keep reading! I am giving you some steps for you to get started in building a stronger connection with yourself.

• Forgive Yourself: You must start here, for proper self-care forgiving yourself is imperative. You make this happen with one step at a time. You need to slowly understand the big picture to better know what did you wrong (if any!) From here, you have the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and have a stronger approach next time. At this point, you only need to let go of the negative emotions, aka forgiving yourself. Now that you have learned and grown stronger, this negativity doesn’t serve a purpose anymore. Honor your self-love here, please!

The beginning of your healing is when you grow from past mistakes while leaving them behind.

• Limit Destructive Affirmations: Here there is no deep secret but your willingness to heal or hurt yourself. Why would you critique yourself based on some stereotypes? You might even laugh when you call yourself something hurtful or negative, why? You need to start saying positive things about yourself! Don’t be ridiculous and think you have nothing positive. If you think so, you have a lot of introspection to do, because you certainly don’t know yourself.
• Identify Strengths and Opportunities: To continue with the abovementioned, instead of always evoking how bad you are at something, or how ugly whatever part of your body looks like, start saying how good you are with helping others, or how beautiful your eyes are. You need to evoke your strengths because when you do, you will be able to seek the right opportunities to continue improving your life and your self-love.
• Add meditation to your life: To help yourself, meditation will help you very much. You can get started with these self-awareness meditations. You only need to invest 5-10 minutes of your time (okay, maybe 15 for some!) You will start growing better in your power.
• Seek Professional Help: If you have a hard time on your own, you always have some options. Unless it is a psychological problem, you can work with a spiritual healer and coach. I will be happy to help you out. Shoot me a message with the WhatsApp button below, or contact me here. If the problem is more severe, and you believe you need a mental professional, please don’t hesitate to do so.

As you can see, these are simple steps, but you need to take them. You should not feel bad if you can’t help yourself, but you need to give it a try. If you want to improve, you are already bringing self-love to your life by wanting this, now you gotta take the easiest and smallest first step, then take another one, and another one, and another one.

The key to self-love is accepting that you are unique, like every single individual

Certainly, we don’t come out from an assembly line. Modern society wants to shape us into following trends, and celebrities, as well as having common wants. However, this doesn’t mean that you cannot honor your individuality with great self-love for who you are. It makes a lot of sense, now more than ever, to find our individuality, and not just follow what the people who surround you are following. At least, first see if you resonate with what you follow, and why!

You don’t come from an assembly line, therefore, you are unique!

We are souls who are incarnated as human beings to have different amounts of experiences. Each one has a different combination of life purposes, soul agreements, and desires. On top of this, you have free will, the power of decision. You need to own this, I mean it! Because if you do, you will live an amazing life. You can be part of this society, even follow trends and other people that you look up to, but always with great individuality and self-love for who you are!

FAQ

Q: Why is feeling connected to oneself important?

A: You need to be in sync with who you are to get the most out of yourself. If you want a better life, you need to also get more involved, and make it happen. To start taking steps towards this goal, you need to be confident you can do it. To be confident, you need to be connected to yourself and understand well your strong and weak points.

Q: How does disconnecting from oneself affect emotions?

A: You will dull your life and go into automatic mode if you are not connected with yourself. Your emotions are yours, so how can you feel them fully if you are not connected to them? Is like checking your socials in a pitch-black room without any device at all.

Q: What is the significance of knowing oneself?

A: You are more in control when you know yourself. You can discover how to empower your strong points and reinforce your weak ones. From here, your imagination is the limit!

Q: How does seeking happiness externally impact one’s life?

A: You need to be satisfied with yourself for any accomplishment to perform. The judgment and validation from other people are biased on their own lives and ego. Value yourself before appraising yourself to others.

Q: Can thoughts influence one’s connection with oneself?

A: Thoughts make a huge impact on your self-love and connection with yourself. You need to learn to organize your thoughts and understand them better. When you do, you will be able to grow stronger instead of weaker!

Q: How does a lack of self-connection affect relationships?

A: If you think about it, how can you love someone else, if you can’t love yourself? This is a popular quote, but it’s very true. If you don’t love yourself, and another person loves you, you are not honoring that person, because, in a way, you are incapable of loving who this person loves, which is you!

Q: What are some practical ways to reconnect with oneself?

A: One easy step is for you to invest 10-15 minutes every night in silence where no one disrupts you. May the only noise be your thoughts. Learn to organize them, and to critique them in a constructive way to discover your weak and strong points, thus, enhancing your connection with yourself.

Q: How does self-connection contribute to resilience?

A: You know your strong and weak points and use this knowledge as good assets to be ready for what is coming. If you are in tune with yourself, you will also have greater intuition, making you stronger. When all of this is true, even if things go south, you will recover a lot faster.

Q: Can anyone learn to connect with themselves?

A: You too can learn to connect with yourself because you can start by taking small steps to enhance your self-love. Only by wanting to connect with yourself, you are already improving this!

Q: What are the long-term benefits of being self-connected?

A: You will have a stronger will, greater assertiveness, and a lot more resistance to face any life challenge. You will have greater results in what you do with fantastic self-confidence.

So, I am sure that you have some reflection to do. The path of self-love is one that constantly improves, and one step toward self-love is to not rush yourself. Little by little, you will know yourself better, and your life will continue growing in significance. Next week I am sharing about the mechanics of sleep paralysis. If you know more about this phenomenon, it will not be scary but a simple step to the dream world or the astral plane. We will talk more in a week. See you next Wednesday!

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Rev. Fernando Albert