Nurturing the Pillars of a Fulfilling Couple’s Life: Insights from Observations and Astral Wisdom

Many couples need to connect better with each other than with third parties

Hi, how are you? Have you already heard the forecast? Today I am going to talk about couples. I’m not a couple’s expert or anything like that. I only base myself on what I have been observing, both in readings with sources of information from the Astral and in the physical plane, observing the surroundings, etc. A couple is much more than going for a romantic dinner or having a good time in bed. A correct life as a couple can bring you a lot of abundance in your life. However, it is essential (and you have to work for it) to have a good connection, communication, and synchronicity. Do not neglect any aspect of the couple, whether it is communication, sex, mutual respect, the trust placed in the other person, etc.

If any of these pillars fail, the couple is damaged. It does not mean that if something small does not work, the couple will break up. However, if “that little” that doesn’t work continue to grow, it can become a significant problem, especially relating the three main foundations of couples. I’m going to talk a little bit about it:

A couple is made up of two people, and they face (or plan) life together.

That would be the dictionary definition that I would give to the topic of couples. I want to focus on what a stable couple is. Today, when you do not have a partner, it is normal to go out, and some people seek to end up in bed with whoever. I’m not going to get into that. Just mention a few things. It is not precisely the best for the navel chakra and your core energy. For some people, the heart chakra (if that person is more sensitive, an excruciating platonic love affair can be born).

It is also for the potential for that connection to be something else. Sometimes “unwrapping the gift” first thing takes away all the magic and mystery, which is part of the charm that helps something beautiful grow. Therefore, if you are looking for a stable partner, keep this in mind. If you are looking for other topics that are already far from this entry. But I want to mention that it is crucial, at least, to build a little foundation in the couple. Maybe more dates. It helps create a stronger foundation. However, everybody is free to do as they please. You will not find any judgments here!

I’m glad to say that, in my case, it has always been this way in my relationships. And I’m so happy I never experienced the opposite because sooner or later, everyone is hurt. And especially after more than ten years of helping people, I have been able to find my validation.

We are not talking about one-night adventures, so let’s focus on the topic.

It was a subject that I wanted to mention. In a way, humanity is giving more to that animal side that seems to deny so much. We are not superior to animals; we are equal with the same rights. Anyway, couples… Two people who find a mutual connection and discover that they can have a life together or try. And this is where I want to go. A couple who already live together can be carried away by the constant hustle and bustle of life, such as work, friends, things to do, and for the vast majority, children.

All this is great, and if you decide and have kids, the connection (is supposed to, but not always) gains value. For most people, it is something they give to each other and have in common (even if it was for adoption, that does not matter.) With routine on the back, the tired couple talks about work, about the day, and your mood (although smartphones are doing a lot of damage here.) Some weekends these couples enjoy a movie or a nice walk. Here we add some couples with a weak and scarce intimacy to an excessive one that even annoys even the neighbors!

A Bubble is not only from soap or a “dangerous financial thing.”

The concept “bubble” may apply to everything. It includes couples. We all, more or less, know what it is a financial bubble. A couple that lacks some connections could be in a bubble state. It can trigger love affairs or “one-night standings” outside of the couple. Hence, discussions, toxicity, and excessive independence (a certain degree of it is excellent and recommended.) When a bigger problem explodes, such as the financial market, bubbles burst, and everything is ruined. What happened during this confinement? Yes, there may be more babies in nine months. Other couples will remain in a healthy balance. But many are saturating lawyers, and not precisely to renew vows, unfortunately.

I talked a long time ago about the importance of communication but in all aspects of life. I also have several posts that talk about couples, communication and healing, and some other stuff. Even a few years ago, I created a guided meditation to repair relationships or give out to start one. It’s called “Enhance the Love: The Three Foundations.” And I’m going to talk a little bit about it.

The importance of the foundations in a couple.

Apart from living together and enjoying a series of Netflix as a couple, there is much more. It is vital to have a good base of communication in a couple. It is widespread for one person, or both in the couple, to share their emotions more with a friend or family member than with the partner. Absolutely, not right, because sometimes, these emotional problems are a thing of the couple, and they have to be repaired or empowered without third parties. As I said before, a couple is two independent people (two souls) who share a life (or will do so in the future).

Therefore, it is essential to understand that both people in the couple are different. It is sometimes difficult to accept that, especially when you see that it does not go with you or that whatever it is, it will even harm your partner. In the second case, you can advise, and sometimes also (without noticing it) have a little toxicity to avoid a bad experience for your partner. For this second reason, especially, you should let your partner do what he/she sees fit and allow him/her to have that life experience if it’s his/her desire (within the norm, of course). Here is the basis of communication in the couple, explain your points of view, and listen to your partner’s points of view.

There will be a point that you will not like some aspects, and you have to accept that it is so. It can take years to get here, and I think it is something that as life progresses, the couple will face from different points of view.

How about the middle ground?

Here is one of the couple’s magic weapons. Sometimes, if there is a conflict and it is very annoying for one of the two people, you can always agree. An easy example is that the first person is free to think or act that way, but with a little consideration for the other person. That is called coexistence, and it is essential. You can always reach a midpoint and come to terms when there is a difference.

Sometimes your partner sacrifices things for you. It would be best if you also sacrificed stuff for your partner. In this way, you will reach a state of balance. And when there is a disagreement (there will be), you have to face them as a couple to continue to have a beautiful relationship. It is something that gradually matures if love exists.

And do not hide from your partner at home behind your phone, for crying out loud!!! That will damage the core of the couple a lot, and little by little, it will inflate that bubble that we want to avoid. Spend a little less time on the internet and more on your partner. I know I say this throughout multiple articles, but this topic is really doing a lot of damage, and most don’t seem to notice. Much more damage than any “bug” that has wings and hums, or it’s microscopic.

Other essential foundations.

It is difficult to prioritize the three essential foundations in a couple, but perhaps there are the most problems in communication. However, there is also the foundation of love. A couple has to love each other. We must take into account the “honeymoon stage” effect. After a while (depends on many things and persons), that passion is lost. But loving the person ceases to exist. You can even get into fights with the other person because you love them. Maybe you are seeing your partner getting lost in something (a tv series, for example). You fear for your partner’s mental, spiritual, or physical health, and you keep on being annoying, sometimes without realizing it.

Some couples do not care about what the other person does, and sometimes it seems like a more viable option for living together. But with that lack of love, you are going to inflate the bubble even more. If a couple has little or no love, it is fragile. It is a work problem. Having to live with a third person (a mother, for example) may be enough to destroy the couple, especially if there is no communication.

A little colossal problem: When it does not work, it can explode hard.

The third essential foundation of the couple is sex. It does not matter if the couple is heterosexual or not. Today there are enough tools to help all couples to connect at the most intimate level. Even if you are embarrassed (shouldn’t), you can buy it anonymously. All the movies, narrations, and social teachings make us think that sex is in a specific way, and that is doing a lot of harm. Both who think sex is “this and only way,” as well as others, are negating intimacy because “It’s only nice in the movies.”

Communication when sex doesn’t work always gets a lot of pressure. It is an intuitive, instinctive animal, mental, and spiritual aspect of the human consciousness. It is much more critical than it appears. Sex may be failing in many more couples than we imagine. For starters, both parties must be happy. Not communicating about dissatisfaction or something now means severe damage long term. Very complicated to repair (that if there is no breakup) in the future. It is crucial that at least your partner knows what you want and do not have and that you also know what your partner needs and wants (that maybe doesn’t have).

Connecting both naval chakras.

Do you remember why I told you that usually, a night standing is not the best? When you make love, the energies mix, and you take the energy from the other person and the other person, yours. As I said, there are “gadgets” that allow a missionary position in non-straight couples having sex. The soul is the one who chooses to be a man or a woman. So if a “male human” is a woman at a soul level, her chakras will move like a woman’s. It is true, regardless of what is between her legs. You will address this person as a woman.

For this reason, it is essential that the couple also study their own sexual connection. Are both people happy? Is there a genuine connection unifying both navel chakras, or are they only games and kisses? It is vital to have both. Although the couple can continue to be happy without connecting at that more profound level, it is an energetic matter that the couple definitely loses. They never become a unit because the chakras circuit does not become one (forming an energy oval.) It could harm the couple in some people, while others put love ahead and ignore it. However, that energy connection will not exist.

Seek what is possible.

To what the physical allows and to the agreements that the couple reaches, it is vital from time to time to make love. Maybe you’re thinking, “and who has that problem?” More than you think, as I said before, I have worked with many people, and for almost twelve years. Maybe months, even years, will go by it. There can also be only games and kisses as perhaps the couple does not seek a further connection (maybe something to check here?). That creates and symbolizes a substantial lack of the energetic and subconscious connection in the relationship. The more positive energy, the better! Right?

Otherwise, it gets colder and colder and may take weeks or even months for an encounter. Not all couples can bear this. If there is a problem in bed now, or there is a reason or a different problem, it is advisable to treat it as soon as possible, so that it is a positive experience for both of you. Otherwise, negative experiences can also be generated that teach you that either making love is unpleasant or your partner is. And it will be complicated for your other half, generating fears, doubts, esteem problems, suspicion, etc. It depends on the person, some may think more than others, but they are negative emotions that should not be present.

In fact, this will also lengthen the time between the couple’s moments of intimacy, the term being longer and longer, and even losing the magic even more. So take care of this aspect too!

And what else?

Although the entry is long because I wanted to touch all three foundations, I also don’t want to go much deeper. After all, I’m not a couple’s psychologist. I wanted to comment on all these issues because if you are reading this on or near May 13, 2020, we have a global problem that forces us to spend more time at home with our partners. Awareness also heals.

Next week I will talk about energy connections, good and bad. We will even talk about when and how we should cut links. Past connections that no longer exist in the physical may exist in the astral. That leads to fears and weakness. Therefore, it is essential to eliminate them when they are detected. Great for couples too! See you next Wednesday! I am pretty sure you are going to enjoy the read! See you next Wednesday!

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Love & Light,

Lots of blessings and abundance your way! (Home)

Rev. Fernando Albert