How Are You Truly Feeling in Your Relationship?

Did this question ever come to your mind before, “How am I really feeling in my relationship right now?

However, this straightforward question has the power to gently open a lot of the doors we so frequently keep closed. It is too easy to assume that love will take care of itself in the lovely flow of everyday life, but true connection only grows when we stop, take a deep breath, and look at ourselves honestly.

It is herein that lies the relationship self-reflection, a method of growing the love, and not making it motionless.

Love never stops growing. But it grows through awareness, not avoidance.

The Importance of Relationship Self-Reflection

As Fernando constantly reminds us, the knowledge of the heart speaks audibly only to those who stop to listen. It is through relationship self-reflection that you are able to reach your emotional truth-the reality beneath routine, expectations, and unspoken feelings.

When you reflect on your own emotions, you are able to connect with others on a deeper level . This is where real growth begins.

If you want to understand how emotional energy impacts love on a spiritual level, you might enjoy reading the insights shared in the article on the Connection between emotional energy & karma. It beautifully connects emotional flow with karmic alignment.

A Good Checkup for Your Relationship

Just like the body needs regular care, every couple needs a gentle relationship checkup from time to time. Many long-term partners stop checking in emotionally, not out of neglect, but because daily life becomes a rhythm of responsibilities.

A relationship is a living energy. It breathes. It fluctuates. It needs tending.

A single moment of self-awareness can make all the difference in an entire dynamic. The article entitled Developing Love Within to Improve Relationships should also prove quite useful if you want to continue with the process of emotional healing, especially on issues related to inner harmony.

Beyond the Three Pillars of Love, Communication, Love, and Sex

Fernando traditionally speaks about the three foundational pillars: communication, love, and sex. When any of these weaken, the relationship feels it.

But long-term relationship growth requires going deeper, beyond the pillars, into the subtle layers of the heart.

This includes:

• Unspoken expectations
• Emotional voids
• Desires never shared
• Feelings brushed aside

These hidden layers shape the health of a connection just as much as the big pillars do.

If you want to explore how heart-centered emotions work energetically, look out for Fernando’s next post or visit the next week’s article on Heart Chakra & emotions section for related teachings.

Recognizing Overlooked Needs and Desires

Distance between couples is frequently caused by a build-up of minor, unmet needs rather than a significant confrontation.

Perhaps you need more love, more certainty, more time spent together, or just more presence. This is where relationship communication becomes a bridge between hearts.

Subtle needs that often go unnoticed:

• The need to feel appreciated beyond routine
• The desire for spontaneous moments
• Emotional validation during stressful times
• The wish for deeper intimacy or physical closeness

These desires are gentle but they are important too. Naming them is the first step to improving your relationship. 

How to Say What You Actually Mean

Talking about what you need is an act of courage and tenderness. 

• Choose soft moments, not arguments, not stressful days, not emotional storms.
• A calm evening, a warm drink, a peaceful atmosphere. This is where vulnerability feels safe.
• A beautiful way to begin is through intentional “couple dinner conversations.” This creates a sacred space where both partners can be honest without fear.

If you want tools to guide deeper conversations, Fernando’s guided practices on the Guided meditations for couples can help create grounding and emotional openness.

Breaking Relationship Taboos — Opening Up Without Fear

Every couple has relationship taboos-things they avoid talking about because they’re afraid, embarrassed, or don’t want to hurt each other. But silence grows shadows. Openness brings light.

Taboos that quietly block connection:

• Emotional needs that feel “too sensitive”
• Past wounds that remain unspoken
• Sexual desires that go unexpressed
• Topics one partner avoids “to keep the peace”

Honesty is healing. Compassion is powerful. When you combine them, trust becomes unshakeable.

“We Need to Talk” — Redefining the Phrase

For many couples, “We need to talk” signals conflict. But it shouldn’t. This phrase should be associated with connection, not confrontation. 

Real relationship talks should happen when things are good, when hearts are open, and listening is easy.

“When communication becomes a sanctuary, even silence feels safe.”

If you want to understand deeper soul connections in relationships, the teachings on Soul connections in relationships beautifully expand on this.

The Relationship Upgrade — Bringing Everything to the Table

This is your moment to intentionally grow together.

Schedule a “relationship upgrade meeting,” a peaceful, joyful, private date where both of you can speak openly.

This simple practice strengthens communication in couples and helps break old patterns gently.

Living With Openness and Heart Energy

Where true closeness exists, emotional truth can flourish. The frequencies of compassion, love, and openness vibrate within the Heart Chakra and relationships thrive when both partners respect this energy.

Fernando will be sharing soon a powerful teaching about the role of emotion and heart energy in daily life. You can explore more on the /emotions/ page if you want to prepare your heart for next week’s lesson.

“Love is not only about being together, it’s about growing together.” — Rev. Fernando Albert.

Want to bring deeper love, clarity, and balance to your relationship?

Explore Fernando’s Heart Energy & Emotions Course or book his Guided Meditation for Couples to strengthen your bond and reconnect with emotional truth.

I invite you to check earlier posts: fifth year, fourth year, third year, second year, first year.

Love & Light,

Lots of blessings and abundance your way! (Home)

Rev. Fernando Albert
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